How did you take care of yourself this weekend?

It's a loaded question because if you're like most people, you probably DIDN'T. At least not in a way that made you feel better!

Don't feel bad! This is a hard concept for people to grasp: Take time for me? Do something nice for myself? It seems so . . . SELFISH. 

Take this example: last weekend, my husband wanted to go ice fishing. So he did. I mean, we talked about it first and he made sure I didn't have anything going on and that the kids were set, but he did it! And I was so proud of him! Unlike me, who needs to plan out every moment of my self-care, he just knew what would make him feel better after a long week and he did it.

Another example: Me. I've been wanting to take a Super Self Care day for a month now. But what do it do? Will it be expensive? What will the kids think? I'll probably just rush home. What if there are tons of people where I want to go? Etc. Etc. Etc. I am a classic overthinker. It's my lot in life. I don't beat myself up about it anymore, it's part of who I am! Half the fun is learning to live with parts of myself that have held me back in the past.

So you know what I'm going to do? This Saturday I'm going to get up, grab $25, go to the local coffee shop, order a Dark Chocolate Chai and a breakfast sandwich, and eat and drink and be merry. Then I'm going to walk around the local bookstore because I love it. Then I'm going to walk around the mall. If I see a pretty necklace at Claire's, I'll probably buy it, but if I don't then I'll just window shop. I'll visit my favorite stone/crystal shop because it's peaceful. Maybe I'll go home and take a nap if my family is out doing their own thing.

The bottom line is that doing all of these things for myself will make me feel GOOD. And when I feel good, I can share it with others and make them feel good. If I feel like crap, guess what gets shared? Yep: crap. So taking time for self-care may feel selfish, but I assure you, it's not. It's part of being a healthy human being, especially if you're the type who gives of him/herself often.

What do you do for self care?

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